I don’t know about anybody else who has gotten married before, but I had serious post-wedding/honeymoon blues when we returned to London. Going back to work that first week was really hard because while I just went through a momentous life experience, everything else stayed the same. It felt odd coming back to the norm and I grappled with how my life had just changed so much, yet everything else still stayed the same. I had to get back in to the swing of things!
Our wedding was a month go and I can’t believe how time has just flown. Our honeymoon from the Maldives feels like a mere dream now. Now that we’ve been back for three weeks, I’ve had some time to reflect on what was the best three weeks of our lives. The run up to the wedding was one of the most special times of our lives. The anticipation for the big day was growing day by day and we were showered with love from family and friends. It was so nice to feel so cared for (not that we don’t any other time) but the time before your wedding is such a special one. There are so many pre-wedding celebrations like hen dos and stag dos, bridal showers, pre-wedding luncheons, rehearsal dinners, etc that it all feels like a big party and it’s all fun all the time. It felt as though we were on such a high that kept on going after the wedding and in to the honeymoon, that coming back to reality was a huge slap in the face.
When we came back, I was genuinely sad that it was all over and was at a loss for what to do with my time. How was I going to replace my time that I spent planning our wedding? What was I going to look forward to? How was I ever going to get back into the swing of things and get out of this depressed funk? I thought it was never going to go away – but it slowly has and day by day. I’ve come up with a few tips to help you get back into the groove post-wedding!
Whether you are coming back from your honeymoon or simply returning from your wedding, take that first week to relax. Even though we had just had one of the most relaxing holidays of our lives, I felt very emotionally drained after it (and a bit jet-lagged). You will be sad when it’s all over and I found it was nice to have that week to reflect. Going back to work is going to be a struggle and all you are going to want to do is go home, throw on some comfy clothes, watch TV and go to sleep. I went to sleep almost every night at 9pm, took the time to reacclimatise to work life and took extra cafe of myself.
The highlight for us, was getting our wedding photos back! We didn’t expect to get them back so soon, but I am so happy we had them to look at when we retuned. We ended up looking through them almost every night, reminiscing on the day and re-telling stories. It was really nice to have those to look at.
DO SOMETHING FUN ON THE WEEKEND
You’ve taken the time to relax, re-set your body clock to whatever time zone you’re in and have gotten caught up at work. Be sure to get out on the weekend and do something fun with your partner. Whether it’s brunch at your favourite place, a little weekend trip somewhere, or going on a walk. It’s important to do the things you used to do pre-wedding mania and it’ll help you feel back to your old self. We took a trip to Portsmouth with our friends and it was so nice to get away and have some fun with them. Seeing our friends made me happier to be back and brought me out of my funk.
HAVE SOMETHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO
The first week when we got back, I didn’t think I had anything to look forward to. How was anything going to measure up to the most amazing day and the three weeks leading up to the wedding? The point is, is that it won’t. Nothing will. Because your wedding day is special and the time leading up to it is special. If all experiences in life were like that, they wouldn’t be as special and this is what I had to get my head around. There will be other great times – holidays, trips with friends, fun nights out, etc. We are going to New York for Thanksgiving followed by a trip to Palm Beach and I couldn’t be happier that we have this trip coming up. It gives us something fun to look forward to. Plan a trip somewhere with your new husband or wife and keep the excitement going.
DO SOMETHING NEW
Take up a new hobby, take a cooking class, go wine tasting, try something new! I have been trying my best to go to the gym and get healthy. During the wedding planning, we didn’t have time to do ANYTHING and I am sure it’s the same for a lot of you. Having all of this time on my hands now makes it easier to do some of the things I wanted to do but couldn’t because of time! I am also making much more of an effort to blog as much as I can and plan on taking a few more photography courses. Trying new things keeps life interesting.
ENJOY BEING MARRIED
Simply enjoy spending time wth your other half, whether that’s doing something new together, cooking dinner together, being lazy and watching a new show on Netflix together (Ozark is amazing, we have also just finished Big Little Lies on HBO, also awesome). Enjoy each other’s company. Go out for date nights when possible and enjoy this chapter of your lives together. In the lead up to the wedding, we were both so stressed out and getting into little fights here and there. It’s nice to not have a worry in the world anymore and use all this extra time we have to have fun together.
It’s been three weeks since we’ve been back, and I’m no longer sad the wedding is over but happy because it truly was the happiest day of our lives and the most fun I’ve ever had. It’s a time i’ll look back on and cherish always but I am excited for the future and all of the fun things in store. There is so much to look forward to in life and I really do believe the best is yet to come…
How did you get back into the swing of things after your wedding? How did you lose that feeling of being “lost?” I’d love to know!